this is creapy no matter what world you live on…

This was sent to me today from HUSBAND…and although he found it humurous…as did I…the more I looked at it, the more I was concerned…WHAT IS THAT?

I have numerous ideas as to what it could be…but am afraid to speak of them…

any suggestions?

mother nature would make up her freakin mind!

Mother nature is messing with us and i dont like it!

Not just with the typhoons, earthquakes, tornados and any other issue she has thrown our way, but just the normal everyday weather in general!

Yesterday it was over 80!  Beautiful..actually we had 3 days…a perfect memorial day weekend…did yet more yard work, took kids to the zoo…held a garage sale…just a PERFECT weekend…this morning it was 42 degrees outside…22 Degrees colder than yesterday at that time!

RAIN!

WIND!

FREEZING ASS TEMPS!

And to top it all off…yesterday they were saying that saturday (day of the “graduation party”) was goign to be SUNNY and 78…now they are calling for RAIN! mid 60’s!

I am stressed!

I asked HUSBAND…”What are we going to do if it is crappy outside?”

“Play Wii”

 

garage sales would make me rich!

Finally last night I was able to organize for our garage sale.

I didn’t realize we had as much “garbage” as we do! I use “garbage” loosely.

One table is FULL of childrens clothes, another of adult. I have about 30 items hanging from halloween costumes to golf shirts…wedding dress…carseat? We have been in booster seats now for almost 2 years! Why did we keep that?!

Toys…VHS MOVIES! Seriously? But they are the Rocky movies…classics (yeah and that is why we are selling, because they are so classic that hollywood video wouldn’t even buy them from us!! haha) so many things that I am just stunned! 

How do you put a price on these things? If they are too high people will laugh because they can buy new for a few bucks more…but if you go to low, then they are “stealing” from you and no money will be made…I will be happy to make atleast $100…would be exstatic to make more.

I have a housefull of people staying next weekend at the house, the deck is still in middle of being powerwashed and then need to be sanded…and I STILL HAVE NO PATIO SET! Where will they sit? where will they eat? how is my deck going to be “entertainment ready?” PANIC.

No, I am not poor that I am relying on a garage sale to help pay for patio furniture, but just like every other house on the block, a family of five doesn’t run cheap these days!

so if you are in the Chicago Area, email me…I will give you a heads up on an awesome garage sale…SATURDAY ONLY!! 9-3!!

 

they would have atleast said “goodbye”

In a nutshell..

made it to graduation with 5 minutes to spare after having to drop Husband off at mother-in-laws hotel and then race to Middle Child’s school and meet up later at graduation (since mother in law didn’t plan ahead and get ready at our house)

MIddle child did GREAT during the hour and half ceremony…(PLUS!!)

Middle Child and I drove seperate to dinner because Husband, OLDEST and Mother in law had to drive back to hotel to pick up “aunt in law”…they arrived at restaraunt 15 mintues after myself and then compained that there weren’t enough menus, and we were one bread plate short…which the (wonderful) bread was “hard” (yet they managed to eat all of it).

Everything we said was ”wrong”…after dinner I was glad that Middle Son and I drove seperate…we met up back at out house (only after another stop at hotel to grab the camera that they forgot)…while determining photo groupings at the house Mother in law commented that she wanted one of OLDEST with her, with my HUSBAND and with OLDESTs Girlfriend and “that would be fine”.

Lucky for me I had to put MIDDLE child to bed and I went upstairs while they completed photos without me. The night continued on in such a manner…

I was going to the bathroom when they announced that they were going to be leaving…HUSBAND called to me “I am going to bathroom” and seriously, in the time it took me to pull up my pants they were out the door…not even a ”goodbye”.

I cried. I cried because there is never a visit that is “better than the last”…I cried because I was upset that after almost 4 years I am still being called by the EX-WIFE’S name…after 4 years I am not any closer to them than I was when we met…I cried because I was angry….and I cried because my feelings were hurt. Hurt more than one would think.

HUSBAND says that it isn’t worth crying over…but to me it is. I had a mother in law before who was a nasty person…I want to live in my perfect world…the one where family is family and loved…because they are family. A world where even if you don’t personally like someone, you still love them and are glad that they are in your family because they make the ones that you love happy. 

graduation day would be happy at our house

Mother and “aunt” in law are here…

Other than being called “EX-WIFE NAME”within the first 5 minutes…them finding it funny and then having the apology be directed to HUSNABD and not myself (but hey, atleast there was an apology)…

MIDDLE Son going into tears because they are here to visit and “nobody wants to come to my game to see me” after he tried talking to them and they completely ignored him….

Then then OLDEST Son accusing me of throwing away the graduation tickets that (last night he said were in his wallet) ..but this morning he couldn’t find them and he knew he put them in his dresser drawer…

This morning being told from the Dean (had to call about possibly replacing lost ticets) that they were told numerous times that if they lost the tickets, they would not be reissued…

Oh but that’s ok because OLDEST Son then called to say that he found the tickets…where? In the dang dresser drawer! If I would have gotten an apology I would have accepted…but am still waiting for it.

 

HAPPY GRADUATION!

UGH!

common sense is required to graduate

Tomorrow is the “big day”…the day that 3 months ago we started to wonder if it would actually take place. The day OLDEST son graduates…well maybe.

Husband just received a call from the school stating that if $52 wasn’t paid for said Spanish Book then OLDEST will not graduate tomorrow.  What Spanish book? He lost it? Damaged it? News to us…not suprised if it weren’t for the school we would know nothing about his life at the moment…I take that back, if it weren’t for his lack of responsibility and commonsense.

Husband calls OLDEST on his new cellphone (the one he paid $400 deposit for, with the media package etc,… which he had to have because after using in during school for the hunderth time we told him enough is enough, so he is off our plan FINALLY) and left message yet to be returned…

Why is it that children go into Kindergarten with more common sense than they graduate with?

If you have a teenager you know exactly what I am talking about..and if you happen to have one that does have common sense…CONGRATULATIONS!

my house wouldn’t be infested with fur balls!

They are everywhere! No matter how many times I vacuum/dust/sweep/pick up with damp papertowels/threaten to shave the bodies they come from…they won’t go away!

Zoose ( the lab) is at the end of his “cycle” therefore this is directed at “Tudy” and “alice” (the kitties)…

We have hardwood floors in our front room…this is also the room that has the large bay window and the overstuffed, (at one time was) beautiful chair that has now become a favorite place for napping cats in the afternoon sun. The fur flies!

I never noticed my cats shed so much until we moved into this house. I will blame it on the hardwood floors…the fur balls just hop along their merry way…under the couch, under the hutch…and soon then have found their way into the kitchen…GROSS. I hate fur in the kitchen. I hate fur anywhere.

Zoose was going through a REEALLY bad time when he was losing his winter coat…he could seriously walk by you and you could see the fur falling…we ended up giving him vitamins and either they worked or he finally “lost the coat” but…these cats are really bad!

Do you have any suggestions? I brush them 2-4 times a week and they love it…but am afraid that the more I brush, the more they will shed? Help!

people wouldn’t be ignorant

Middle son plays teeball. Teeball is composed of 10-12 players per team, average age is 6. These are young impressionable boys and girls.

Well last night I did something that I am both proud of but at the same time am not sure was the right thing to do.

Our “team mom” is a smoker. She thinks nothing about smoking when they walk up to the field, during the games, as she is talking to parents etc. It has bothered me for some time…I used to smoke, but never in a million years in front of children and I sure as hell wouldn’t do it at a teeball game!

Over the past few weeks I have started to get to know two of the other mothers. Our sons play great together and we have a great time talking during the games, laughing etc.  Each game a different player is responsible for bringing the after game snack. Consisting of a drink and “snack”…Last night was “team mom’s” turn. The field we happened to be playing at had a concession stand, that during our game was closed. “team mom” it turns out has a key. I kid you not, she walked in there towards the end of the game and came out with a box full of individual bags of chips and drinks…Drinks that consisted of nothing more than “sno cone syrup”…Seriously. I was speechless. Her husband even walked over to my husband and I and said “sorry for the snack.” I played stupid, like I didn’t see her walking out of the concession stand with the stuff…obviously he was embarassed…

Any how, long story short…as the ”snacks” were passed out , people commented on how it was ”like pure syrup”…ok it was my husband that did that not realizing that she was standing behind him…but honestly, it was so who cares if he said it…right?

well she left and my family and two other families  were leaving and we were laughing and threw the drinks in the garbage etc.  It was a great , eventful, fun evening at the ballpark!

After dinner I noticed that I had a message on my phone…from “team mom”. She needed me to call her back, she would “be up late”.

Crap.

 I called.

 She said that she felt a “vibe” from me and wanted to know “if everything was ok”.

 I almost didn’t say anything but, then I thought, well since you asked: “Do you think smoking infront of the kids at the games is really appropriate?”

She went on to tell me that ”there are no rules stating that she can’t smoke at the games”.

I reminded her that the games are on school grounds and that is a rule. I was then “corrected” when I was told “those fields aren’t school grounds” …

Crap! I must be dumb, because when I see a baseball field, attached to a playground, that belongs to a school…I just assumed. 

Anyhow, she said how ”none of the kids see her as a role model. But will be sure not to light up around my son”. I told her that this was “strictly my personal opinion and that she shouldn’t not do it on my account, but she should do it cause it is the right thing to do. Thank you for calling because now we both know where the other one stands on this issue”.

The whole thing was handled with tact I assure you.  I am proud of the fact that I stood up for these kids who are young and impressionable…Yes, other parents on the team smoke, but not at the games…there is a difference. I do not condone smokers, to each there own, but I feel that at a childs sporting event it isn’t necessary. 

 On the other hand Husband and I are trying to make friends and I am nervous about the impact this may or may not have at tomorrow nights game…but really I wouldn’t want to be her friend anyhow…white trash…(oops! did I just say that?)

For a minute I will try to think positive…perhaps she called me because she knows she did a crappy job at snack, she was embarassed, so to take eyes off of her at tomorrows game, she has to create drama with someone else…maybe she will think about what I said to her and she won’t smoke at the games anymore…yeah right and maybe my dog will learn to pick up his own crap from the yard.

 

the graduation would have already come and gone.

Oldest son is graduating next Tuesday. Thank god.

This should be a day of excitement and praise…feeling so proud of the man he has become…instead I wish I could sleep through the whole next two weeks.

Oldest son has always been a great student…played football…did chores…did homework…was respectful…honest…caring… Then he became a Junior…and things started to change…as a senior he didn’t want to play football anymore because at the new school (we moved summer before junior year) he wasn’t “top jock” although he won’t ever admit it, instead he says that “it just wasnt’ fun. He didn’t fit in”..All through his football years Oldest was “the jock/mr. popularity” suddenly he was put with players who were better than him and he didn’t like it.

So senior year, after conversations with his coaches (which I don’t even want to get into that one because the things that he told them still makes me mad) he decided not to do football. Ok , someday he will regreat not playing his last year of high school…but we can’t make him play.

He was advised from counselor at school what classes he “has to pass” to graduate…which in his mind means “you can fail the rest of your classes and still graduate” … and that my friends is what has basically happened. He is LUCKY to be graduating next Tuesday.

Husbands mom and aunt are driving in for the “big day” and that makes me cringe as well. Said Aunt is not high on my list of people I want to spend any amount of time with…Said mother in law…she is ok as long as she isn’t around Said Aunt or anybody else for that matter. GREAT NEWS! They are coming in on Monday and leaving Wednesday..!!!  Thank god I work outside of the home!!

A short 10 days after the “big day” they return…this time with Husbands siblings and their spouses…that I am looking forward to…my sister, brother in law, Neice (aka sweetest little thing ever!!) and potentially both of my parents are driving in for this event as well. First time that our families have EVER met each other…two worlds are simply goign to collide! 

So we are spending money and time and energy planning this whole even for the OLDEST who doesn’t really appreciate a single thing that we have done for him. No, he doesn’t say that, but actions speak louder than words…basically we are a hotel (that he doesn’t get charged at!)…I think that is where my frustration is coming from…the fact that we are doing all of this FOR HIM and he could care less.

I love the OLDEST, but lately the sight or sound of him makes me angry…angry that he obviously isn’t happy, angry that although I am not his “mom”, I have been there for him when “she” NEVER HAS BEEN and angry that I do love him, but I am the easiest one for him to lash out at…Angry that I am angry.

People would tell me that I am boring!!

Ok. I am boring. I can deal with that. But atleast you could leave me comments telling me that I am boring. That would greatly boost my self-esteem…? It is true. Yes I would have to face the fact that I am boring, but atleast I would feel good because “I have comments! Readers who read me although I am boring! Readers who although find me incredibly boring, still take time out of their productive, fun, exciting life to tell me how truly boring I am! Yep, I would be honored!

I have had a sad 173 hits on this blog…but only a mere handful of comments..except for one, all from my mom and sister!

Come on, I dare you…LEAVE A COMMENT! Heck, I double dare you to tell all your friends to tell your friends to tell me how boring I am! 

…oh and while you are at it, maybe tell me how to make it less boring!