she would stop being a bitch

My cheery outlook for this weekend WILL NOT BE RUINED!!!  I am determined not to let his ex-wife (aka mikeys mom) ruin this for any of us! But I do wish that she would stop being a self-centered, bitter, dictating bitch! But I guess old habits are hard to break!

Last night Mike talked to Mikey and he was so excited that we were going to be picking him up tonight. He loves the waterparks, and even more he loves his Uncle Bill,  Aunt Lori and ofcourse baby “skywalker” as he calls her. It was all set and as I packed all our things last night I was getting really excited…well, that was yesterday!

This morning Mike gets a message from the her saying that she doesn’t think it is a good idea for mikey to miss school on Friday and to pick him up around 1030…now, let me remind you that he is 4, and attends a private preschool (which we pay for) for 2 (TWO, DOS, ONE MORE THAN ONE) hours…really, it isn’t like we are taking him out a full day of grade school…(ok so we are taking Joey out all day, but as parents we have made that decision)…He asked if she was serious and said that we have already made arrangements based upon their agreement…she then pushed the buttons…”I am very serious, and MICHAEL isn’t an arrangement”…Ofcours when he then calls her she doesn’t answer her phone…instead she calls him when she gets to work so her co-workers can hear her call her ex husband..”the worst father ever.” and accuse him of “everything being always about (him) you”…and it wasn’t until she shouted out more lies and bitter words that he told her in so many words she is a nutcase…that she hung up on him.

My thought? He is a parent and has equal rights…let him go to school tomorrow and we can pick him up after 1 hour…let him be suprised to have his daddy come to his school…don’t let her dictate what you can and can’t do…but when I suggest this, things get heated because “that isn’t the point”.  I am aware of what the point it, however my point is the more he lets her do this, the more she will because he is giving her that power…

This isn’t the first time that she has done something like this…and I am sure that it won’t be the last. She doesn’t realize that she is also hurting her son…all she is trying to do is make it so that Mikey will get to the point of “taking or leaving” his father…

Going back to what I first said, “I WILL NOT LET ANYTHING RUIN OUR FUN”…whenever we pick up mikey we pick him up…but once we do “WE ARE OUTTA HERE!!” for a weekend of “fun in the sun”!!

Does anyone else have similar issues? do they get any better over time?